Apr 4, 2011

Question

Why in a relationship, when the girl starts to complain, all the guy can think of is that she's getting crazy?

Think about it...could he have some part in it about what she might be complaining about? Yes we might take an argument out of proportion if not most times, but it could result in the fact that maybe she didn't want to make it a big deal in the first instance; maybe she already spoke about it and hoped that waking up the next morning an effort will be made; maybe she purposefully wait it out to see what happens if nothing is said, or maybe altogether she just doesn't want to argue.

If the guy cares so much about her emotional well-being, why can't he make an effort to ease the tension by listening to what she is saying? Even if it is a petty thing she must have a bigger reason why it's suddenly a big deal. It's simple really, if she complains that you don't take part in the chores around the house, why not make it easier by keeping the area tidy or organized. If she complains, about your dirty laundry all over the floor, why not remember to always throw the laundry in the hamper.
Without realizing it, petty things can become major problems if not given attention to. Petty things are major problems in most relationships. It's most exhausting if one partner refuses to listen (and by that I mean actually hearing their voice, not just checking if your ears still work) -- LISTEN to her. She might not say it directly because you might take offense of what she's not saying. She obviously doesn't like to argue with you but if you're not going to listen to her how else is she to avoid it?

Guys, really. We're not here to nag you to your death bed. If you agreed to be with us as our partner every step of the way, don't stop half heartily because she starts to annoy you and then the 'love' isn't there anymore. Be her partner by assisting her, she'll love you more if she didn't have to be bossing you around on what needs to be done. You say you love her, then show that you can listen to her and provide results.

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